There's a question
that, at one point or another, we all ask ourselves “Where am I
going in my life?” Sometimes we don't like to ask ourselves as it
forces us to question everything. Are we really happy with our job? Do we really want to spend the rest of our lives living in
routine? Are short bursts of arranged trips enough?
Some of us
live our whole lives with such fixed minds that these questions
barely ever come to light.
We all think we know
the key to 'happiness'
There's a formula
right? A 7-step formula to happiness.
1)Go to school and
get the qualifications.
2)Go to university and
get an enormous debt.
3)Get a good job.
4)Get a mortgage and
start your pension.
5)Find someone to mate.
To 'complete' you
6) Retire and spend all
the retirement money.
7)Die peacefuly in your sleep
There's the formula
and may I just say that it's not fixed. The order can change. Some
steps are skipped. Or some people 'fail' and end up living alone with
a dead end job and a mounting debt.
Let me start off by
telling you all that there is so much more!
I
can see you all rolling your eyes and wanting to dismiss this. There
was a time where I almost dismissed this. After all I grew up
surrounded by this formula. I was taught it. We all are. You see it
in the movies, you see it all around you. It's like it has been
imprinted into us like a stamp. A recipe passed down through the
generations and displayed wherever you are as a reminder.
This
may be hard to accept. Some may argue that they went on a gap year
and got a little gap year necklace. Well that's excellent and must
have been a brilliant experience however; what did you do during that
time? Stay in youth hostels, eat cans of baked beans and see the
sights? Get drunk every night and have many sexual escapades? At
least this is something. Yet most of you chose to get back into the
7-step cycle afterwards? A short break from the comfy reality and
then back again.
What we all need to realise it that, as a
nation, a society, we have allowed ourselves to be used and
manipulated and controlled. There are set principles we have to abide
to. Certain ways we are expected to be, react, feel and express ourselves. We like to call this 'maturity'
As
young children we are free and not yet imprinted by society. We learn
from our surroundings, constantly taking things in and incorporating
them into our lives. We learn what is expected and acceptable.
Sometimes in the harshest of ways.
I
am not saying that this is done in a malicious way, quite
the opposite! This is done with
love from all around us because it is what they were taught and their
parents were taught and so on.
Gender
is also interesting. Blue room for the boys. Pink for the girls. We
like to logically label and categorize everything! The truth is that
things aren't as Blue and Pink as they seem. There is no definite line. Things merge and overlap. Sometimes we can see this on a
physical level. Hormones, physical features, DNA etc sometimes is is
beneath that. Beyond the physical.
What
needs to be understood is that we are all born with male and
female aspects. Our minds do not like this as it does not seem
logical and can't be labelled or put into a category.
I
remember when I was 7 and at school. There was such a separateness
between gender! The boys thought the girls were disgusting and vice
versa. Through this, certain archetypes are born. In order to fit
into our gender label there are certain ways to act, react, feel and
do. I shan't go into these things because they do vary from culture
to culture but needless to say, they are there!
What
needs to come to being is a stripping away of these formulas and a
burning of the rulebooks to life as we know it. Balance must return.
Realisations of the pre-conditionings needs to come to be and we must
all strive to strip these preconditions away. The first step is
actual realisation. Your minds will be telling you to deny this
because without these pre-conditionings who are we?
I
cannot tell you this. All I can tell you is that each and
everyone of you was born with a
blueprint. Most of us forget it as it cannot be intellectually
understood. Some of you may get very frustrated in life simply
because there is something you know but just cannot access. We all have the inconceivable truth of existence within us. Under the layers
of preconditions. Beyond our minds and emotions.
Realising this is
the first step.